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Sex or even a passionate kiss or a passionate embrace
is total self-giving of your self to another person.
If done before marriage, it hurts the following people:
1- It hurts the person you
are doing it with. Since
you are not 100% sure this person will be your lifetime
spouse you are taking something from this person, which
belongs to their future spouse. This will leave the
person with many emotional and spiritual scars well
into their future marriage life.
2- It hurts your future spouse: You
are giving something of yourself to another person,
which belongs to your
future spouse, the person who will be standing at the
altar by your side on the wedding night. To give yourself
totally to another person is a betrayal of your future
spouse who you might not know today but God knows who
this person is. Instead of cheating on your future
spouse, you should pray for him/her and make a promise
to consecrate your self to this person and present
yourself and your body as a gift to this person on
your wedding night in total self giving when it will
be the most special moment if you have saved yourself.
It will be truly heaven on earth.
3- It hurts your future children because
you are betraying their Mom or Dad, even though you
are not married
to the person yet, it’s still a betrayal because
before marriage the person is your spiritual spouse
since God has already chosen this person for you
and knows who this person is.
4- It hurts your parents: There
is nothing more that your parents want than your
purity leading to a happy
and holy marriage life. Disrespecting yourself and
giving yourself away to be abused and used by people
who claim to love you but truly not, hurts your parents
the most. They might not tell you but you don’t
know and can’t imagine the amount of pain you
cause your parents when you let yourself be used, defile
your body and desecrate your purity. To your parents
you are their hearts and the reason that they live
for. Please honor them by first honoring and respecting
yourself. Trust in the promises of God and you will
win.
5- It hurts your siblings
(brothers and/or sisters), cousins and relatives because you
are giving them
the wrong example and sending the wrong message,
telling them by your actions that it’s OK to
sin thus causing them to also sin which might lead
them to destruction.
6- It hurts your friends because
you are also giving them the wrong example and teaching
them how to be
selfish since you are sending the wrong message that
you don’t mind messing someone else’s life
for your own temporary desires.
7- Your sexual sin offends
God. Christ gave up himself
for you on the cross that you may live and have life
to the fullest. By your sin you offend the Lord and
in a way your sin amounts to another spit on his face,
another thorn in his head or another nail in his body.
8- But mostly sexual
sin before marriage hurts YOU. You are robbing yourself of the
thrill of that special
wedding night which God has prepared for you. You are
giving of yourself to someone who you are not 100%
sure will be your spouse. You are dehumanizing your
self and your friend since you are treating your friend
as an object to be thrown away as soon as you are done
with him or her and letting yourself be treated as
an object. Remember your body is a temple of the Holy
Spirit. Don’t throw that gift away. You are created
in the image of God. God perfected his creation in
the human person. You are called to holiness of life,
which will give you a joy that transcends all joys.
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